A ideal marriage is not the one
where you and your partner live happily ever after. This fairy tale view of
marriage will land you in a bisque, so you might as well collapse up and
realize that fighting is an integral part of any relationship. No fights would mean
there is something terribly wrong but continuous fighting is not a good thing,
as well. Here’s a short list of what sparks a fight, simple ways to prevent
them and how to solve them once they get out of hand.
Responsibilities: This is a common issue that pops up every
now and then. Shirking simple chores is something that all couples are guilty
of and sometimes it ignites a row that could bring other small problems on to
the table. Since household chores are so small you tend to ignore them and if
this happens over a period of time, your partner will throw a fit sooner or
later. The only way you can avoid such a clash with your wife is by sticking to
your chores.
Scheduling a vacation: This could turn ugly if you’re
not open to what your partner has to say. Beach trip or a mountain trek? Make
sure you give your husband or wife enough space so that you don’t end up having
one of those infamous arguments in marriage.
“Time for partner”: Okay, this is something you need
to navigate very carefully or you could land up having a major fight with your
spouse. When you’re planning something with your friends make sure you tell
your partner about it in the proper manner.
TV break: This might seem like a petty thing to bring
up, but you would be surprised to learn that many marital fights crop up
because one partner hogged all the TV time. Make sure you give your other half
a chance to watch his/her favourite shows also.
Family relationship: This is one area that you need to tread very
carefully. Passing comments regarding your partner’s family could be the
starting point of a heated argument. This can happen over even the smallest of
insults so ensure your partner and you don’t end up quarreling over a family
member.
Extra hours at office: So
you’ve been spending extra hours at office so that you can nail that promotion?
Make sure you don’t ignore your husband or your wife while doing so. Your
family should be your top priority. Many fights get start because of this
reason.
Sex: This is an important issue that sometimes causes a lot
of friction between couples. You need to sit down with your other half and
discuss any issues that could be hampering your sex life. Instead of starting a
shouting fight, try to understand the reason behind the argument.
Fights in a marriage can be handled in a proper manner and even side-stepped
if you know what you’re doing. However, it is impossible to avoid arguments
always and if you do find yourself in such a situation make sure you know how
to calm things down.
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