More recently, psychologists have argued that the crisis in the love comes pole 7 years relationship. Recent studies have shown - because of the influence of modern lifestyles quarrels come more often after only 3 years.
Relations crisis manifests itself in 3 years nitpicking to things that kill passion: bad habits, financial problems, the routine at work. Experts see the reason for this is that people are starting to take their partner for granted, know his weaknesses. At this time, the relationship changed in pairs, most often associated with childbirth.
To survive the crisis in the relationship and keep the family together, you need to follow some rules:
- Instead of looking for flaws in a partner, look at yourself. You are both to blame for the fact that now your relationship soured. Do not forget that you have changed too - to change your habits, social status, there was a life experience. Try to realize it, work on your self-esteem and try to help with this loved one.
- Do more surprises to each other. During this difficult period, support is needed for both of you, and pleasant surprises to help get close, switch from a negative to a positive mood. Non-standard behavior will help to escape from the troubles at work and other concerns you both.
- Thank each other every day, for every little thing - wash and ironed shirt, a delicious dinner, repaired valve. By the way, does not necessarily wait for the problems in the relationship, to thank your loved one for small deeds done you good.
- In a crisis situation, many psychologists advise in a crisis situation to return to joint pleasant memories. Acquaintance, first date, a joint vacation at sea - any event that causes you both positive emotions. It is important to remember not only expensive places you, but to strengthen and maintain the family tradition.
- Even in a difficult situation as a crisis, do not let negative emotions take power over you. Try to think positively, think of all the positive qualities of your mate - in fact for something you love it ?!
- Do not forget that people are always united by a common cause. To get closer, go on a journey, write in a dance studio or a sports club, start with studying any foreign language.
- Often the constant presence beside simply bored. Particularly acute is felt during the crisis. Instead recriminations better meet up with friends, sign up for courses or dance, to visit his parents, discover a new hobby. New emotions, knowledge, and experience will help a fresh look at a loved one.
Do not forget that all crises have their origin and their completion. Realize this and endure hardship will become much easier. Relations crisis - this is not the fault of someone of the spouses is a period in the development of relations and experience it all couples without exception.
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