My personal experience is that low esteem girls are the ones that seem to want to be used and hurt. But in fact they live in a delusional state where they believe in part that the man who treats them badly is somehow a "god" in their life, and they will try and please him even if it means being abused and obeying even the most unreasonable requests. Other girls with low esteem try and change bad-boys into good ones.
And some are just submissive that like to be used and punished and abused because they want that. The last group, the submissive group, are the ones that intentionally seek out abusive men. But do not let yourself be fooled, they have limits and in fact enjoy controlling their abusers. They are in fact the dominant actors in the dynamic.
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious
relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and
never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since. When I reached 20
years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women
who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so
hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just
like what happened when I was 14 years old!
I
held onto a negative response to women for so long and didn't even
realize because of my 'learned' responses in the past, every
relationship I had up until that moment was ruined before it even began!
This type of problem happens with both men and women. Whether abuse,
shyness or fall-outs. If you are in a situation like this or if you
ever run into this sort of problem, realize, people are people just like
you are and you cant judge a book by its cover. We are all born into
this world and we'll all go out the same way! Just because the person
you was with before treated you like dirt doesn't mean all men/women are
the same.
Have some humanism!! Stop blaming women and men just
because you haven't been able to get over your own problems surrounding
new/old relationships! Instead, take a step back and recognise the
truth about whats really going on. Every human being in this world is
just living their lives the best way they know how.
Don't blame,
judge or put yourself or anyone else down just because they are trying
to play the cards they were dealt. Some people are prettier, some people
are more aggressive, some people are shy and some people are more poor,
but we all deal with life and our everyday problems the best ways know
we can.
Don't blame somebody else for your problems and frustrations
Do
something about them, accept them and work on them to make yourself
better! Try to understand, connect to and enhance your experiences with
people and yourself. Learn from your mistakes and have fun when meeting
new people. Eventually you will begin to look at women/men and all
different types of people in a respectful and humble way! Real
connections will begin to emerge and better relationships will begin to
form when you do so from now on.
Acquiring good and healthy Self
esteem regarding new and current relationships is the main factor here.
When your self esteem is good you are able to connect with yourself and
others with respect and harmony.
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