It is often advised to go slowly at the beginning of a relationship. This has its reason for being. Men get excited easily when they meet a woman they like. They have no qualms about leaving emerge or show enthusiasm every day. Think of it, they want to be with him and not repressed. And that, women flatters us greatly.
But the truth is that they may tire of the new "toy" as easily, if they see or intuit something about his new girlfriend that does not convince them or turn your alerts. And this is not always fair, since they are often created an idealized image of the woman and removed as soon as they discover a suspected fault.
Therefore, a smart woman knows to go slow and make it clear that she is not someone you can play. The best way is to show you as a woman of flesh and blood, be sincere and honest, without trying to look better than you are or misrepresent to please your man.
In the process, it is important to be careful and do not to impair yourself, giving too much importance to your fears and weaknesses, showing your worst side. Learn to be assertive and give more importance to everything positive you have to create a relationship based on trust, generosity, ability to grow and expand.
These are the issues that you must be very careful if you take some time with him and want the relationship has a future:
Talking about your ex. Forget it, unless you have to tell that you have been married or you want to go slow because your last relationship broke your heart. But do not give you details and blades never being them with your current partner. If you are continuously present in your conversation to your current partner will not be your ex, but its competitors. And you, someone who is not trustworthy.
Confess you're tired of being so self-sufficient. This is a touchy subject. Many women, however much they enjoy and value their independence and career, want all soul found a family and devote body and soul to it. But do not go tell that guy not yet know well you're dying to have a husband and children and stop working. One thing is that men want to work for your family will not miss anything. Another, forcing them to adopt the role of "suppliers."
Slash him with your "horrible" physical defects. If you want to strengthen your self-esteem, learn to step over them. Think he likes you, so you do not see horrible flaws, and if you're not perfect you look very sexy. And the more you gustes you, more you will like it. They love women who enjoy their body and sensuality.
Show too attached to money. Beware overemphasized that you have no money or looking for a man who does. He will think that you're using to pay your bills and your whims. And the best is located, it will be more suspicious. Try to give the image of a financially independent person who knows how to enjoy life with or without money, and you will earn their respect.
Criticizing people. You might think that helps you look smart and sharp, but the truth is that he will feel threatened by your sharp and confident that you will soon he too skinning language. Be especially careful not to criticize their colleagues, their friends and of course his family.
Overwhelm with your soap operas. Although it is tempting, try to avoid overwhelm you with your self esteem issues, your traumas, your family secrets ... Not trying to be flippant or superficial, but to focus on issues and topics of conversation that are pleasant for both and help them to know and feel complicit. The rest will come ... eventually. First need to know and trust each other.
Complain about your job. And how horrible the company, and your boss and your colleagues frightening. Why you should not do it? For the same reasons of the previous two points. However, remember that we are human and when you need it ... Pour over briefly and quickly changing the subject to move to another more lively.
Show insecure. Never tell her you feel insignificant, weak or little value. Remember that he still does not know you well and you will see what you show. A confident woman is very, very attractive.
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