We Need Sex Education For Children

How can a Muslim parent then not worry when schools and mass media portray fornication as sexual freedom, and homosexuality as an acceptable ‘sexual orientation’? But does this mean that Muslim parents and educators should choose that their children have no sexual education at all? The answer is no! Children will always receive some kind of sexual education, and even if you isolate them, they will still get it from other children! The correct attitude should be to give our children the right sexual education, one that is derived from the Qur’an and the Sunnah.

Sex education doesn't need to be a single tell-all discussion. Follow your child's cues about what he or she needs to know — and when.

Sex Education For Children Urdu men

Hamare muaashre men sex ki taleem haasil karna mushkil hee nahen naamumkin bhee he kiun k yahan itna shaoor shayad kisi men ho Magar bacho'n ko sex education marhala waar milni chahiyien maslan 10, 11 saal kay larkon ko ilm ho kay sotey mein inn kay penis sey ek khaas qism ka sufed liquid kharij ho sakta hai jo kay bilkul fitri cheez hai na kay koi beemari. Iss tarah bachiyon ko to 10 saal ki umer mein yeh ilm ho jana chahiyie kay unn ki faraj sey khoon nikal sakta hai jo kay baloghat ki alamat hai na kay koi khatarnaak beemari.

Humarey haan yeh ajeeb baat hai kay log bachon ko jinsi taalem (sex education) fraham karney ko bura samajhtey hain, hala'n kay yeh talim deegar ashkaal mein mufassal tor per school, college aur university ki satah per biology, physiology, anatomy, gynecology aur psychology kay mazameen kay students ko dii jati hai. Allah ta'ala ney Quran majeed aur Hazrat Muhammad ney ahadees mein tafseel kay sath yeh zaroori aur fitri ma'aloomaat fraham kii hain, yani yeh bari ajeeb baat hai kay jis baat ko Quran aur sahib e Quran bataein hum usey batatey huey sharmaein. Kya bachon ko paki, na paki kay baarey mein ma'aloomat nahin milni chahiyien, kya naujawano'n ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay ehtelam (nocturnal ejaculation) aur mubashrat (intercourse) kay ba'ad ghusl farz ho jata hai. 

Aisi soorat e haal mein ghusl kis tarah karna hai, kya inn ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay qatro'n kay ikhraj sey ghusl farz nahin hota. Bohut sey naujawan namaz parhney mein iss liye bhi kotahi kartey hain kay woh inn qatro'n ko paleed samajhtey hain hala'n kay yeh qatrey napaak nahin hotey. Iss soorat mein sirf penis ko dho lena aur wuzu kar lena kafi hai. Kya naujawano'n ko yeh nahin ma'aloom hona chahiyie kay mani (seminal fluid) koi qeemti cheez nahin aur na hi peeshab pakahnaey ki tarah napaak hai. Khush mani ko ragerr kar saaf kya ja sakta hai. Isi tarah kya naujawano'n ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay

Hum jinsiyat (homosexuality) na sirf gunah hai bul kay khatarnak jinsi bemariyon khusoosan AIDS waghaera kay phaelney ka mu'asser zarya hai. Kya naujawan nasal ko iss baat ka ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay mian biwi kay jinsi ta'alluqaat per sharmindagi ki koi baat nahin, yeh koi buri cheez nahin. Allah kay nabi ney biwi kay sath mubaashirat ko naeki aur sadqa qaraar diya hai. Iss tarah kyalarkiyon ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kayhaez koi bemari nahin bul kay ek fitri cheez hai jo inn ki baloghat aur takmeel ki alamat hai. Kya bachiyon ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay leucorrhea koi beemari nahin.

Agar aap bachon ko Quran o sunnah aur jadeed ilm ki roshni mein khud jinsi ta'aleemnahin deingey to bachey yeh ma'aloomat apney doston, deewaro'n per ishtehaaraat aur ghaer meyari kutub sey hasil kareingey jo taqreeban 100% ghalat aur gumrahkun hoti hain. Ek research kay mutabiq bachey taqreeban 50% jinsi ma'aloomat doston aur 21% kutub sey hasil kartey hain(Hyde). Budqismati sey bacho'n kay doston ki ma'aloomaat durust hoti hain na hi humarey haan iss mozou per meyaru kutub mojood hain.

Iss hawaley sey ek sawal yeh paeda hota hai kay bachon ko jinsi taleem kab dii jaey. Iss silsiley mein Quran majeed sey rehnumaee milti hai. Who bachey jinki madri zuban urdu hai woh ju'nhi Quran Majeed parhna shuru kartey hain unn ki sex education bhi shuru ho jati hai. Amooman bachey 9 ya 10 saal ki umer mein Quran majeed parhna shuru kar detey hain. Mashhoor huftroza Time kay ek survey kay mutabiq awam ki aksaryat ka khayal hai kay jinsi ta'aleem 12 saal ki umer sey shuru ho jab kay walaedaen ka khayal hai kay bachon ki jinsi ta'aleem baloghat sey pehley shuru nahin honi chahiyie magar haqeeqat yeh hai kay bacha apni jinsi ta'aleem apney ibtedaee saalon mein shuru kar deta hai Aur yeh bhi haqeeqat hai kay bachey ko agar sahi zaryey sey malumat na milein to phir woh galat aur tabah kun zaryey sey gumraah kun malumat hasil karta hai aur inhi malumat ka asar hai kay naujawan tabqa jinsi aur akhlaqi tor per tabahi kay kinarey per khara hai.

Humarey khayal mein jinsi talim bachon ko ghar hi sey miley. 9/10 saal ki umer mein maan beti ko aur baap betey ko yeh ta'aleem deni shuru kardey. Research sey sabit ho chuka hai kay bachey walaedaen sey jinsi malumat hasil karney ko tarjeeh detey hain. Iss liye yeh baat bey hudd zaroori hai kay walaedaen khud Quran o sunnah aur jadeed tehqeeq ki roshni mein taza aur sahi ma'aloomat hasil karein ta'kay woh agli nasal ko yeh ma'aloomat muntaqil kar kay ek pursukoon aur behter mua'ashirey ki bunyaad rakhein. Walaedaen kay elawa teachers ko bhi yeh malumat hasil karni chahiyien ta'kay woh hasb e zaroorat bachon ki rehnumaee kar sakein.

Yeh talim bachon ko ek dum nahin bul kay marhala waar milni chahiyie ta hum shaadi sey pehley jinsi talim ki takmeel ho jani chahiyie. Iss talim mein bachon ko apney jismani a'aza (anatomy) aur unn kay functions (physiology) kay hawaley sey malumat fraham ki jaein. Iss kay elawa mubashrat, halal, haram, hamal, paeda'esh aur jinsi beemariyon waghaera kay hawaley sey malumat dii jaein. Khusoosan jins kay hawaley sey jitney mughalitey hain unn ki haqeeqat sey bachon ko aagah kya jaey.

Iss kay elawa bachon ko yeh talim o tarbiyat bhi dii jaey kay unhoney apney aap ko jinsi tashaddud (sexual abuse) sey kis tarah bachana hai.

Here 5 Islamic ages Sex Education

7-10 Years: the Age of Discernment

At this age, the child should know the etiquette of entering the parents’ room, and the rules concerning looking at others.

10-14 Years: Adolescensce

At this age, the child should learn how to avoid sexual arousal, and should be protected from it.

14-16 Years: Puberty

When the child should know the etiquette of sexual intercourse, if he or she is ready to get married in the near future.

16 and Above: Young Adults

The unmarried young men and women should learn sexual abstinence, and the dangers of adultery and fornication (zina).

THE AGE OF DISCERNMENT

In most homes, young children move about quite freely, and often take for granted that they can enter wherever they want. However, there are limitations for older children, who at certain times should ask their parents’ permission before entering their bedroom. 

Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala, says, “O you who believe! Let your slaves and the children among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission (before they come to your presence), on three occasions: before morning prayer (salatul Fajr), and when you put off your clothes for the noon rest, and after the late-night prayer (salatul Isha). These three times are of privacy for you, outside these times, there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending to each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Signs to you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [24:58]

It is then preferable that when the child is old enough to discern between right and wrong, and easily understands and follows directions (usually around age seven), that he should ask permission before entering. This is especially emphasized at the times when the parents are usually undressed, i.e., from the time after Isha prayer to the Fajr prayer, and during an afternoon nap. There is no doubt that this teaches the children to be decent, and aids to protect them from unintentionally stumbling upon scenes that may prove shocking to them. When the child reaches puberty, he should be taught to ask permission before entering at all times, as Allah says, 

“And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them also ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age). Thus Allah makes clear His Signs for you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [24:59] By teaching and reinforcing these lessons over time, decency and modesty can gradually be integrated into the child’s character.